Relationship & Dating Coaching

Below are my programs that are currently open right now in Fall, 2023. Please fill out the form to whichever program you’re interested in & I will be in touch. All questions can be messaged to Rae through Instagram or via the contact form. Click the buttons below for more information.

1:1 Private Coaching for Ethically Non Monogamous Couples and Individuals

My private coaching program is personalized 1:1 private coaching with me. Together, we will work through a particular challenge you’re currently facing in your relationship(s). Past challenges I’ve worked with clients on include:

  • Processing and healing from betrayal and hurt from a current partner

  • Preparing for a group-play event, club, or party - whether you need to discuss a communication plan with the partner you’re attending with, or even what to wear and what to expect.

  • Building or re-negotiating sexual and romantic boundaries in your existing relationship(s)

  • Opening up your existing monogamous relationship so you can explore non monogamy together

  • Navigating ENM or monogamy as a sex worker

  • Planning a threesome so you can explore your sexual desires

I will gather resources that are specific to the needs of you and your partner(s) that will help you learn new relationship tools, whether it’s re-learning scripts for effective communication, updating your sexual health knowledge, or putting together a personalized review of everything you need to remember from our calls.

This offer includes private Zoom calls with me, plus all 1:1 coaching includes support outside our calls through direct messaging, so you can ask questions and reach out for reinforcement between our calls.

The Master Date Program - Dating Coaching Online

My signature Master Date program is a 8 week virtual program built to help you develop the skills you need to successfully date online and offline, and to help you attract your ideal partner. Whether you’re kinky and trying to find someone GGG and supportive, ENM and looking to date ethically, or none of those things and struggling to make matches and go on dates, this online dating coaching program is for you. During the course, we’ll overhaul your online dating app profile, shift your mindset to better attract what you’re looking for, and learn new strategies for efficient dating so you can stop wasting time on the wrong people. By the end of 8 weeks, you’ll be able to:

  • Clearly identify what you want out of dating and your next relationship, and how to know when you’ve found it

  • Improve your inner monologue around dating, both online and offline, and build confidence in yourself for better emotional resiliency

  • Take great profile photos that are accurate that improve your matches (and also learn how to take better photos of yourself in general!)

  • Craft an authentic and compelling dating app bio that creates opportunities for people to connect with you through your profile

  • Learn and practice how to approach people through different dating apps, direct messages, and in real life with confidence.

Master Date Coaching Options

1:1 Master Date This package offers the most support, and includes 1 hour weekly calls with me on Zoom. Each call involves a portion on skill building, with space for you to ask questions about the content as well as time to talk about any other dating challenges you’re facing. All 1:1 coaching includes support outside our calls through direct messaging, so you can ask questions and get feedback while you’re implementing the material.

Master Date Course + Check In calls This package gives you access to the online course for you to complete each week at a time that works best for you, plus weekly 20 minute check-ins so you can have your questions answered, and we can make sure you’re on track.

This is currently open for enrollment for Fall, 2023 . Fill out the form below to get more information & I will be in touch with you.

The Wingman Service

Heading to a sex/lifestyle club, party, or event and feeling a little awkward? Maybe you don’t know what to wear, don’t know what to expect, or don’t feel comfortable making friends. Maybe you just don’t want to go solo, but don’t have any friends to go with. I’ll be your wingman. Whether you want to check out Oasis Aqualounge for the first time, or have another event in mind you need a friend for, I’ll come and be the extravert who breaks the ice for you.*

Wingman Coaching Options

Event Visit & Prep + Post Check Ins This package includes 3 hours on site at the event of your choice, a 30 minute call in advance to prepare you for the event, and a 30 minute check in after to process and talk about how you can continue to integrate yourself in the community.

Event Prep Call - A one time call to help you mentally prepare for an event - we can discuss what to expect, plan your outfit, and I’ll give you key tips on how to socialize depending on the event.

*Not local to the Greater Toronto Area? Message me to discuss bringing me to your city.

Sharing is Caring: Intro to Non Monogamy program

My signature Sharing is Caring program is a 8 week virtual program built to help you better navigate your consensually non monogamous relationship challenges. By the end of 8 weeks you’ll know:"

  • What your relationship needs are, how to set boundaries and come to agreements that will ensure your needs are being met in all of your relationships. This would be instead of setting rules or having rules set for you that will restrict your ability to explore and feel the benefits of freedom in CNM.

  • Determine what kinds of additional relationships you want to enter into (sexual, romantic, both?)

  • How to show commitment in different ways that don't include exclusivity. For example, you've been with your partner for two years, you're not engaged, you don't own any property, and now you're worried about what's going to keep them from leaving you if they find someone "better". This is a super common fear, and defining commitment is the first step to overcoming it.

  • Overcome common communication pitfalls to establish a robust and effective system of communication for a more productive outcome during times of conflict. This will include strategies for when you're feeling anxiety, jealousy, and insecurity, and what to do and say instead of reacting explosively.

Sharing is Caring Coaching Options

1:1 Sharing is Caring This package offers the most support, and includes 1 hour weekly or biweekly calls with me on Zoom. Each call involves a portion on skill building, with space for you to ask questions about the content as well as time to talk about any other dating challenges you’re facing. All 1:1 coaching includes support outside our calls through direct messaging, so you can ask questions and get feedback while you’re implementing the material.

The Group: Join and learn from a group of people with different experience levels. This package involves 1 hour weekly calls, with support offered between calls through the group chat.

This is currently open for enrollment for January, 2024 . Fill out the form below to get more information & I will be in touch with you. Contact me for inquiries about the next group.

What people are saying:

  • About Master Date:

    Rae is an amazing coach. When we started off she listened and tailored the coaching around what I needed from it. Her communication is amazing and the feedback on dates as well as working on messaging and how to say certain things has been fantastic and really worked for me and my own communication style. Her work with me on the photos and how to take better photos of yourself is invaluable and would recommend this to anyone for that alone.

    -Daniel

    I've been having difficulty finding good quality matches through online dating. Rae gave me the tools I needed to create an attractive profile with exercises to get clear about what I want, how to attract my perfect partner and advice along the way. She approached each session with care, humour and non-judgement. We were able to reach our goals in just 2 sessions! I would highly recommend Rae for all your relationship coaching needs.

    -Rebecca

    I thought I knew everything there was to know about online dating and approaching women with little success. Everything changed when I started working with Rae. She has helped identify what I like and how to properly approach women in public. I also received a great deal of help with my profile pics, and biography. Within a few days I began seeing results. Thank you Rae. (Listen to Rae, and it Will All Be Okay)

    -Christian

  • About Sharing is Caring:

    Overall the course was fantastic. Here are some things I loved:

    The goals of the course and the outline were clear and easy to understand. I saw advertisements for it and thought it was for me and then when I got more information I was totally in. I think you did a great job naming the course, the IG posts and the syllabus were all super clear. The experience lined up with the stated goals. And then exceeded expectations! You did exactly what you said you were going to do and it was even better than I imagined. You’re generous with ideas and have clearly spent a lot of time thinking and working in this area.

    I think the progression of the course made so much sense. The homework was small and doable but kept me engaged in thinking about the topics between classes. The balance of sharing, lessons and Q&A was excellent. I admire how you are able to invite questions and then give wait time and be silent to draw out people’s thoughts and ideas. You are a great facilitator. You don’t judge and yet you aren’t a robot. It’s clear you’re a real person with pizzazz and personality and you share in ways that are super helpful.

    I loved the group aspect. While we didn’t chat much between classes in the chat, it was nice to have it there. I really enjoyed having other’s there to feel seen, heard and to normalize CNM generally. The group was great.

    I wish I had something to suggest to make it even better, but I really don’t. It was just what we needed, I only wish we had done it sooner. I think the pricing was totally worth it, especially since my partner and I did it together. To be honest, I probably would have paid more, but the knowledge and guidance you give is priceless.

    Thank you so much for the course. I know future clients will totally benefit.

    -Michelle

    Your preparation was exceptional. Everything was always ready to go and on time. The progression of ideas we discussed made sense. It was well ordered and led us from the basics to more nuanced concepts. You always found the right tone. You were able to balance the emotional weight and seriousness of the topic with the reality that we’re still talking about fucking. I like the way you invited participants to share their own stories and workshop ideas. It added personal relevance to the course without turning us all into case studies.

    -Greg

  • About 1:1 Coaching

    Rae is the coolest! She really gave me the tools and strengthened my confidence in living with, and disclosing my STI status to future partners. She was crucial in helping me undo the stigma and finding the prospect of dating again far less daunting. She is so easy to talk to, and really has her programming down to a fine science. She will help build you up to be the best you that you can be!

    -T

    I originally started working with Rae in order to improve my selfie game and learn how to take better pictures, and she has been an enormous help in that regard. I'm far more confident and capable than I used to be, and she gave me the skills and strategies I need to pursue my creative ideas. Along the way though, she has also helped me with CNM relationship coaching, motivation advice, productivity tips, sexual health advice, and a wealth of other valuable insight. Rae is kind, thoughtful, funny, knowledgeable, and wise. I can't recommend her services highly enough.

    -Phil

  • About the Wingman Service

    I have been on a path to discover more about my sexuality but found myself way too intimidated to explore on my own. Rae was such an incredible help by putting not only my mind at ease but helped me set small, realistic and achievable goals that I not only reached but surpassed! She helped me come out of my shell and made me feel good about myself and the progress I made. She was super fun to work with and helped unlock new kinks and was the best wingman ever when we went out to Oasis. She stayed with me and made sure I felt comfortable and confident. I would absolutely recommend her to everyone who is curious on self growth in their sexuality,dating or even just to grow their knowledge on sex in general!

    -Jordyn

    After a long term relationship breakup I didn’t know where to start or have the tools to get back out into the dating world. After a quick call with Rae to establish what I needed help with, she came up with a plan to get me back out there. We started with a more in depth call where I was given the tools on approaching dating, this gave me confidence to get out there. Her methods are brilliantly simple, such that anyone can use them and not feel overwhelmed. They proved to be successful. Rae then also provided me with some DM support on how to keep the text conversation going after a date and setting up another, in addition to supporting me through my first visit to Oasis.

    -C